Like any grandmother I love spending time with my grandchildren. I have two at this stage—Ava is six years old and Tylan is four. I have lots of fun with both these two little ones and sometimes they come out with some gems that are worth sharing.
A few days ago I was with our daughter, Anna, and Tylan, our grandson. We were enjoying a cup of tea in our lounge room. Our grandson was busy drawing pictures and you could see his little brain was quite busy. He then offered, what I thought, were choice words of wisdom. He said in a very matter of a fact tone, "There are some things we should keep in our brains." At first we didn't know what he meant, but upon questioning him it was obvious he was telling us that there were some words that never needed to come out of our brains they needed to stay there.
I thought about the wisdom of a four year old who realizes that there are words that are better never spoken because "we should keep them in our brains." If Tylan could articulate this thought further this is what he would say:
1. We can never take back our spoken words: We all know this but it is worth repeating. Once those words are out we cannot take them back.
2. Our words can wound deeply: We know this fact because we have probably all experienced being wounded by unkind words. Even if we apologize for our foolish words they still hurt.
3. Our words can have far reaching impact: I know families and friends who hold grudges to this day because of foolish words spoken—words that should have stayed inside our brains. I think this is sad because forgiveness is so foundational to the gospel, but people hold on to their grievances and those words do not only impact the person who the words were meant for, but they impact whole families and communities.
The Bible gives us some good advice about words. In fact, if you read the book of Proverbs it speaks constantly about the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21 "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 21:23 "Whoever keeps his mouth keeps himself out of trouble." Proverbs 15:4 "A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit."
Our words can be healing or damaging. There are some words that should stay in our brains. Yes, there are times we need to confront someone in love, but we need to make sure we pray about speaking to them and that our words will bring life and not death.
Great words of wisdom from a child today. "Keep some words in your brain."
I am and always will be,
recklessly abandoned, ruthlessly committed and in relentless pursuit of Jesus,