Yesterday my blog was about "keeping some words in your brain"—that was wisdom from my four year old grandson. Simply put, there are some thoughts that go through our brains that should never be shared with others.
The Bible also tells us that, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver." There are people in the world who do not know how to give a compliment, say thank you, I love you or affirm a person. They have never learned the power of kind, gentle, and affirming words.
So with my thoughts still on the power of words, let me add another layer to this topic. There are times that some words do need to come out of our brains. The good, kind, lovely, sweet, gentle, and admonishing words that build people up and encourage them in their journey.
- Don't just think kind thoughts: There are many times in a day I think kind and generous thoughts about people, but I have to admit it is a discipline to walk down the corridor and tell them what I am thinking or send them an email to tell them how much I appreciate them.
- Generous and kind words are healing: I know how many times I have been encouraged by some generous or affirming words. Someone has taken the time to write and let me know how much they appreciate me or they have affirmed me personally. It does something on the inside of me—it always build me up and encourages me.
- Kind words can be as powerful as destructive words: When we are generous with our words we may never know the implications of those words. I know people who say they were about to 'give up' and then, "A word fitly spoken" was like an apple of gold to them! Those words saved them from a destructive decision or a hurtful action.
- Words should always be sincere: I never want to affirm someone without being absolutely sincere in what I say. Generally people can see right through flattery. We are not talking about flattery here, we are talking about genuine, authentic encouragement.
- Keep the bad thoughts in your brain and let the good thoughts roll from your lips: The book of Proverbs says that even a fool is thought wise if he hold his tongue. In other words, there are times words are not necessary and other times they are powerful and life giving.
At times, my mind dwells on negative aspects of people and of life. I know those thoughts are not good for me. That is why I love Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers and sister, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy— think about such things."
When my mind is filled with positive thoughts it is a good discipline to allow those unspoken words to be spoken. I can affirm others, I can encourage my family and I can honor and praise my God.
I am and always will be,
recklessly abandoned, ruthlessly committed and in relentless pursuit of Jesus,