THE BATTLE AGAINST PORN

Statistics can be unreliable, so I am not going to quote a whole host of them in this blog.  I do know that many researchers have revealed some surprising findings about Christian men, and increasingly women who are addicted to porn.  This is a tough topic!

I have heard some of the excuses before.  "Well, I am not harming anyone, I am only viewing images."  Really?  I mean, come one, do you honestly believe that you are not doing yourself grievous harm?  Please, before you turn me off, give me a chance!  This is not meant to be a judgmental post.  That is the very last thing I aim to do.  As Christ followers we are all damaged, wounded people who have found our way into God's incredible arms of love.  And no, porn is not the only sin, and no, it is not the unforgivable sin. 

So let me open my heart, as I open God's Word, and give just a few pieces of what I hope will be some helpful advice. The apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian church in 1 Corinthians 5-7 and he encouraged them to honor God with their bodies.  So what do we do when we are tempted?

1. RUN LIKE CRAZY - Yes, you read right, I said, 'run.'  Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:18 "Flee from sexual immorality."  I love the story of Joseph ,in the Old Testament, in Genesis chapter 39.  When Potiphar's wife tried to seduce Joseph, the Bible says 'he fled.'  When you see those unwholesome images flash before you... run!  Please don't be naive and think you are strong and those graphic pictures will not harm you.  If you believe that then you are beguiled.  I have been involved in ministry for over forty years now - I can honestly tell you I have seen how porn has destroyed marriages. 

2.  GET HELP - I know how difficult this will be, but you have to try and find someone trustworthy who can help you.  You have to seek out a person that you can open your heart to and tell them the problems you are having.  I urge you my friend, before this becomes a bigger issue and encroaches on the most precious relationship you have - get help!  If you are single, you still need help.  Don't make excuses.  This is not some harmless exercise.  You are going to need help re-programming your mind to think good, wholesome and upright thoughts.

3.  BE ACCOUNTABLE - Find an accountability partner who you can answer to.  Meet with them every week and let them ask you the hard questions.

4.  AVOID WEBSITES AND  DARK PLACES - You know where you can access this vile material that undermines, and totally devalues God's creation, turning bodies into objects of lust and desire.  Put blocks on your computer and TV.  Watch the stores and places you go to.  

5.  CRY OUT TO GOD -  He has not stopped loving you. Nothing you do, or don't do, will make Him love you more or less.  But God wants you to be whole and free.  Ask Him for His strength to resist this temptation.  This is one battle you cannot fight on your own.

I am simply giving some advice.  I cannot dictate what you do or don't do - only you can decide.  But, think for a moment, do you want some sleazy boy looking at graphic images of your innocent, and beautiful girl one day?  What kind of example do you want to be to your son or daughter?  I can hear you say, "They will never know about it!"  You may be right!  God knows, and so do you and you have to live with that.  If you catch your young son looking at graphic images one day what will you have to say? 

There is nothing healthier for a marriage than to fill your mind with images of the man or the woman God put at your side.  No one and no image should EVER take that place.

I have been blunt I know!  I realize I have probably lost some readers in the process.  However, I have seen so much harm done to single and married people who have allowed these unwholesome images to captivate their minds.  Sex with the person you love can never compete with those pornographic images that produce mere lust.  Behind each of those images is a person who God loves and never designed a mere object of lust.

Hear my heart.  I want you to be free.  There is nothing more wonderful than walking with the wind blowing through your hair, soft grass under your feet, blue skies captivating your senses, and an open heart loving God, your spouse and your family, if you are married.  My prayer is that you will begin a journey to freedom.

I am and always will be,

Recklessly abandoned, ruthlessly committed and in relentless pursuit of Jesus,

Carol

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God's beautiful creation!