Dashed dreams, unfulfilled desires, failed plans...where are You God?

I looked up from the desk and she was staring at me.  Her eyes were penetrating me as she struggled to find the right words.  I smiled at her, trying to put her at ease, asking if I could help her in any way.  The woman was obviously distraught about something and I was trying to help her to relax.

"Why is God so mean?  He seems to get pleasure in snatching dreams away from people." I listened to her and tried to understand what she was getting at.  She said; "I have just attended a conference and a man was speaking to us about his shattered dreams."  She then asked me a poignant question: "Is it better not to dream?  After all, it seems that when you do have a dream, God  snatches it away from you."  I have to say that I was rather taken aback, wondering if she had taken what this person had shared out of context.  I think she probably did.

Psalm 37:4 says "Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart."  I do understand that there are people all over the world that have had dreams and hopes that have been dashed or have not been fulfilled.  There are people who have longed for a promotion that did not come their way.  Couples who have ached for a child and their longing is unfulfilled; people whose dreams have been crushed. 

Yes, I am also one of those people.  Some of my dreams have been dashed, my longings unfulfilled, and my plans have failed.  Let me make a few simple comments here.

  • Firstly, I do not believe that God takes pleasure in dashing dreams, or shattering plans, or stifling longings.  However, I do believe He knows best.  Sometimes my plans are not His plans and He knows that my plans would lead to destruction.  He knows what is best for me.  At that particular moment in time I may not see or understand, but I do know that God has an eternal perspective that I do not have.
  • Secondly, I do believe that I can trust God.  When my children were little they did not always like the decisions I made.  Sometimes they would get mad with me.  At times they even accused me of not loving them, but it was because of my deep love for them that I made those decisions.  They couldn't see it at the time, but they can see it from this perspective in time.  I haven't always understood the why, but I do know that I can trust God because He has my best interest at heart.  Even if I never understand something from my human perspective, one day He will tell me the reason behind they why. 
  • Thirdly, I do believe God loves me unconditionally.  Because I know that God loves me, I believe that He has my best interest at heart.  I have to simply take courage in these facts.  Sometimes life is tough. There are times I do not understand why things happen.  But I look where I am today and I can say; God is wise, trustworthy, and loving. 
  • Finally, I know that I will never have all the answers to the problems of life.  I am human and frail.  There are some things I will never understand.  God is infinite and wise.  He knows what is best for me and so I can confidently place my life in His Hands.

I probably did not answer all of the woman's questions, but I hope she went away with a more positive image of the magnificent, kind, and generous God that I serve.  God is not a snatcher of dreams - sometimes God needs to shape our dreams to fit with our hearts.  There are times that I think I know what I need and want.  I have discovered however, that God knows far better what my human heart needs and wants.  I can leave it safely in His caring Hands.

Have a blessed day my friend and put your trust in a loving, kind, and faithful God.

I am and always will be,

Recklessly abandoned, ruthlessly committed and in relentless pursuit of Jesus,

Carol