Our Human Need for Affirmation...Validation...Confirmation!

Have you ever felt down in the dumps?  For no identifiable reason,  you just felt miserable.  I know the feeling and I don't like it!

I think it is merely human to desire and need affirmation.   I have met brilliant people who need validation about the tasks they do and even some of the most physically stunning people need to be complimented and assured of their physical appearance.  It might appear arrogant, but it seems to me, that as human beings, we have this innate need to feel appreciated, wanted, and respected.

In Proverbs 25:11 it says; "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."  When you feel blue and someone gives you an affirming word validating you,  it makes you feel so much better.  So why not give someone a golden apple today?

  • Be sincere - No one appreciates insincerity.  Don't tell someone they sang beautifully when they don't sing in tune.  Rather, find something you can genuinely affirm in a person.  That is not difficult.  Everyone has something commendable in them.
  • Go out of your way - If you see a stranger at a coffee shop go out of your way to affirm them...watch their countenance light up. 
  • Make it a habit - Give someone a golden apple every day.  The kid you are teaching...who is giving you hassles might just need a bit of affirmation to show them their true value...it might make all the difference to their future. 

So my friend, if you are feeling blue today then my advice is for you to give someone else a golden apple and see how that changes your day.  We all need to be affirmed.  Even the person who appears to be brimming with confidence needs validating. 

How wonderful our world would be if it was filled with people giving kind words away.  When I give kind words sincerely and generously it does something on the inside of me. 

Have a great day my friend and be generous with those golden apples.

I am and always will be,

recklessly abandoned, ruthlessly committed and in relentless pursuit of Jesus,

Carol